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TALES OF THE OTHER WOMAN.

April 29, 2018 5 Comments

Let’s talk a little, no condemnation, no judgement, just a group of online people having a conversation on what’s real.


Finding love these days seems like an almost impossible mission, you find a good looking clean, already made dude and  Nigga is taken in marriage, you find one you don't mind building the future with, and Bros is in something serious, and when you think you've finally  found the one you can manage a bit, either Chairman is full of himself or has little or no qualities ( not physical attributes though) to what you want in a man.

Now the question is Ever been in the shoe of the other woman? like being tagged the side dish, well if you haven’t sit down relax and feed your mind on this beautiful story.

Growing up was so much fun for me, with lots of beautify fantasies on how my love life would go, but as luck would have it, they never played out that way.  It all started at very tender age, when all I ever admired was my chiro master whose height was the perfect definition of Mr. Tall man, or had the thick voice of sweep me off my feet baby.. I had crushed on him for more than 2 years, but didn't seem to get noticed by him that I had to join the school choir so as to get noticed by him..


Boobs so firm, ass cringed to skirt was what I had thought would be my weapon of seduction, but man wasn't having any of it, as he had the principles of not messing with young girls which I didn't mind if he did with me, cause all I wanted was to know what it felt like to be love by someone more mature and responsible for his actions…

I thought that was all till Mr K came knocking, he made me feel like the perfect school girl who had all going for her, in terms of getting away with anything she did.  At first, I didn't pay attention to this, the fact I was getting attracted to older guys or men, or guys who were emotionally unavailable either by marriage or by serious relationship where getting attracted to me.

Meeting him made me realize there was something fundamentally wrong with me, like what young girl on earth lack young, single and vibrant toasters, instead of people who just cared about chopping and cleaning month…  

Mr O, was just the perfect definition of child abuse, and the sounding alarm that I was going the part of the other woman. Like why must they all be elderly with either a divorce case at hand, a wife at home or a lady they are crazily in love with. He was 40 and I was 19, yeah you heard right, and all he cared for was getting married to a nigerian wife who would take care of his Nigeria establishments, and his sexual needs whenever he came back.

I avoided Mr. O with my last breath, and thought it was all over, till Mr. D came along, what must be wrong with me I screamed, why can't I just find my own I asked, my own that would love me with no divided attention, with no stories on how we should enjoy the moments when it last, why can't I find my own high school sweetheart, at least few years older than me won't hurt, but they kept coming in older numbers, I think at some point, my heart got so accustomed to them being taken and me playing the role of the other woman, the woman who had to keep shut while they were on calls, the woman who had to be there when they needed a change of soup (sex), the woman who they called when the felt bored, the woman who the had as an option.
Looking back now, I think this experiences made  the young available dudes seemed like Child's play to me, cause I became familiar with family orientated men, who knew how to treat a woman right, and use the right words on her, who knew how best to satisfy a woman sexually even without meeting her emotional needs cause inasmuch as they kinda had the cash to spend, I wanted something more, something they weren't all able to give cause they had it on reserve for the queen of their hearts….


It almost skiped my mind before Mr. D came by, Mr. W had made me see things differently, he made me feel like I was the only girl in the world, with him I thought I had found live and happiness, but you know until you love yourself, you can never be truly loved…. I loved myself cause I was all I had in the world, yet this thing called love didn't seem to work out well…
After Mr. W was done with his tenure,he avoided me like a plague, I was shocked at this, I thought i meant the world to him, I thought I was all he wanted, what went wrong, has the abroad babes taken the love of my life away, I asked all this questions in anticipation of an answer till it happened....


Hell no, I can't sell out all details right now, to be continued in next post TALES OF THE OTHER WOMAN 2...

Hope you enjoyed this read, and can't wait to get the full gist, well let me know how you or anyone has been affected by being the other woman in the comment section bellow, or for more privacy, fill the contact form down bellow....

Thanks for reading and stay glued for the second part of it....

25 THINGS TO DO BEFORE I HIT 25; HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME

April 23, 2018 6 Comments

Guess who woke up to a new age, I am literally screaming in my head right now, like guess who just clocked 24 years of age? Moi...

The best gift I have received so far today is from my mom, as they say, a mother’s prayer is priceless… In her words Ngozi God will grant you all your heart desires and bless the works of your hands, your own man who would love you for who you are will find you and you won’t need to stress over it.

Some say I over react or hyper active about my birthdays, but who won’t be, after going through 365 days of life, and starting a new journey of another 365 days.

Few days to today, I sat and thought to myself, what are the 25 things I wish to achieve on or before I turn 25, as it is said write your vision and dreams down and watch them through.

That very instant, my brain went blank, and it felt like the toughest question I had to ask myself and give answers too. However, after so much short-term future scan, I finally was able to build my bucket list or wish list of expectations and goals to achieve on or before I knack the almighty 25, my silver jubilee.

First happy birthday to me, and now let's dive IN...


  1. BECOME A BETTER CHRISTIAN/ BECOME BETTER AT MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD: this has been my major desire, to build such an intimate relationship with God, become more dedicated in things that concern him, and worry less about things of the world
  2. BUILD NEW AND HEALTHY RELATIOSHIPS: when it comes to keeping healthy Opposite sex relationships, I think I suck at it. But one promise or mission that must be accomplished before hitting the big 25 is having one healthy relationship I can boost of and be proud to show off...
  3.  IMPROVE ON MY SAVINGS
  4. IMPROVE IN CONTENET CREATION FOR BOTH BLOG AND VLOG: if you have to do anything, do it well

  1. GENERATE AN INCOME FROM BLOG AND VLOG: even though we do things cause we having fun at it, I would love to start earning from my blog and vlogs, like make some extra cash from my hobby while I still chase my career.
  2. START A POULTRY BUSINESS:  my love for running a poultry business has grown as the year goes by, not only because I see it as a source of income, but because I would love to be an employer of labor, reduce to some certain extent the level of unemployment in our dear country Nigeria. This need has to be satisfied before I hit the big 25.
  3. TRAVEL TWO AFRICAN COUNTRIES: I love to travel to new places and experiment the world. Though I wish to do this with someone am crazy about but if it doesn't happen that way, then adventure would be with me, myself and I to experiment the beauty of Africa.
  4. VISIT MORE NIGERIA STATES:  sometimes we get to busy and caught up that we forget to experiment with life, but after my trip to Akwa Ibom and learning all I learnt there, I made a stern promise to travel Nigeria to explore its beauty...
  5. DEVELOP  NEW HOBBIES: like movie seeing, tourist or adventure trips
  6. IMPROVE MY COOKING SKILLS:
  7. IMPROVE MY FASHION SENSE: Get ready to see a new me, that won't just wear a pair of trouser and polo then slippers. I would learn to dress more like a matured young lady, like let’s bring the A game on cause it’s a better dressed Ng soon.
  8. GET PROFESSIONAL CERTIFICATIONS.
  9.  LEARN TO DRIVE: in as much as I find women who drive as being pretty hot, yet the fear to handle the steering hasn’t seemed to let go of me. So, before hitting the big 25, this fear has got to leave me.
  10. GET INVOLVED IN POLITICS: First step for me is by getting registered in a political party.
  11. GET MYSELF A CAMERA: when I talked about getting professional certification, photography class was included, so in support of this, I would get myself a professional camera to support this dream.
  12. LIVE ALONE
  13. UP MY MAKE UP GAME. 
  14. UP MY SOCIAL MEDIA SKILLS AND EARN FROM IT
  15. JOIN THE FIT FAM (mission get back to 70kg): this picture here should tell the whole story...
  16. TAKE MY PARENT ON A WEKEND GET AWAY:  twenty something years of bring parent and being responsible for some little things called kids deserves some accolades... So, on or before my 25th birthday, I wish to spoil my parent to a weekend get away from bring parents and just being young adult falling all over in love again.
  17. GET INTO THE ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY: my first love had always been movies, I always dreamt of being a personality to reckon with in the movie industry, however that dream has seemed impossible, so come on or before my 25th birthday, I should have been on the part way.
  18. GO FOR BIG BROTHER: so, if no 20 doesn't work out before next big brother, see us there cause that's a platform to market your talent.
  19. INVEST IN MY LIBARY:  aside reading relationship and purpose driven books, I plan on adjusting my choice of books
  20. BECOME BETTER AT MY CAREER
  21. REALLY CELEBRATE MY BIRTHDAY




Thanks for taking your time to read this post, until next year, when I come back to mark register of bucket list success, please join the conversation by leaving your comments in the comment section on your birthday bucket list and how you achieved it.